Do you crave balance? That middle ground where you feel both calm and vibrant? That place where you feel amazing in your body, mind, and spirit? The magical point where confidence, gratitude, and joy collide?
Maybe you lead a fairly balanced life, but occasionally you get a little off track. Or, perhaps a challenge or change in your life has caused you to lose your balance altogether. I know how you feel. I’ve struggled with the day to day challenges that build up and create a cumulative effect of stress. I’ve also dealt with a sudden major life change where it felt like everything in my life was out of whack. A situation where, if I didn’t learn how to regain my balance, then my health, my relationships, my career – everything was going to suffer.
Today I’d like to share a tool with you that will help you become aware of where in your life you may be off balance. And awareness is the beginning of change and correction that will help you to bring your life back toward that middle ground and feel more balanced. It’s a visual tool and of course, it involves a bike. Or a bike wheel to be specific!
When we examine the wheels of a bike, each wheel has an inner hub and an outer rim, which are connected by a series of spokes.
- Work together to support and evenly distribute the weight of the rider.
- They are designed to handle a great deal of weight or pressure (think STRESS) without breaking.
- If one spoke bends or breaks – All the other spokes take on more of the load and each spoke becomes more vulnerable.
Think about each spoke as a priority or a passion in your life – the things that you require for YOUR healthy lifestyle:
- Relationships (partner, kids, parents, friends, co-workers)
- Spiritual relationships – connection to God/Universe/Spirit/Source
- Yoga, Qi Gong, Tai Chi
- Self-care and self-love (most neglected)
- Nature – the water, the forest, feeling your toes in the grass or sand
- Solitude (downtime or quiet time)
- Music and/or art
It’s important to know what your personal spokes are. They may be different than mine or you may have some that are a different priority than me.
The beauty of this wheels to wellness tool is that when we feel off balance, we can start examining our spokes. We can go through and assess how we feel in each one. Some will feel light at times and good. Others will feel heavy, bent or even a bit broken.
By knowing your spokes and what YOU require to feel good, you can quickly go to work to bring things back into balance.
Lately, I’ve been feeling a little off balance. I realized that a few of my spokes – rest, play, & nature – were a little bent. I was neglecting this requirement in my life. So I’ve spent the last couple weeks focusing on them.
I’ve been going to bed early and sleeping late. I’ve been taking naps. Some days in my car, other days on the floor of my office. It wasn’t always ideal, but it was necessary. And I’m starting to feel rested, restored, and rejuvenated.
Play & Nature
I’m actually combining these. I grew up on the water in the Finger Lakes region of Central New York. No matter what was going on my in my life or turmoil or angst I was feeling inside, if I got out on the water, I felt everything was going to be ok. As a child, it was on my dad’s ski/motorboat. Or water skiing. Or sitting by the pool. Later on, it was kayaking. When I met my husband Jim, he introduced me to the healing power of the ocean. This summer, it’s finding myself on my stand up paddleboard (SUP). As often as I can. It’s part of what heals me and brings me back into balance in this season of my life.
What are your spokes?
Take a minute and write them down. Think about what brings you joy, what makes you laugh, what revitalizes you. And start to bring more of these things into your daily life.
Know your spokes. Trust your spokes, And pay attention to them. Keep them in good working condition. Remember, it’s not about perfection, it’s about consistency!
If you can relate to this, please comment below. I’d love to hear your takeaways and what you consider your most important spokes to be.
And, If you know others can benefit from this topic, please share it!
For a video explanation, catch the FB Live on the Wheels to Wellness!