“My belief is that the whole purpose of life is to gain mastery, mastery of our emotions, our finances, our relationships, our consciousness through meditation, things like that. And it’s not about the stuff we achieve or amass in life. All the stuff can be taken away. People lose their fortunes. They lose their reputation. Beautiful spouses can die or leave you. But the mastery you achieve and who you became in the process of achieving those things can never be taken away. Never.”
~ JACK CANFIELD
I”m a big advocate of assessment and evaluation. It’s in my nature to look at a situation or experience and try to draw the good out of it. And maybe not always the good, but the life lesson.
When I self-published my first book, Come Back Strong, I was SUPER excited. Like most new authors, I fully believed I was going to sell hundreds, thousands, even MILLIONS of books.
With the spirit of that belief, I looked at many options to promote and market my book and myself.
Jim and I were going to be in Arizona the first week in April. Our hotel and flights were paid for as part of his winnings as the 2017 Isabody Finalist Runner Up. I found a women’s wellness event in Phoenix that was just days before we were scheduled to be in AZ. I signed up as a vendor, reserved a table to sell my books, and even signed myself up to speak from stage. I was told to expect 15,000 – 18,000 women. Each of them would be focused on wellness. And each woman would be ready to buy.
I invested – not purchased – in myself and had 1,020 books printed and shipped to the Expo. We booked a hotel a few days early and arrived with enthusiasm. And then we waited. And waited.
If we saw 3,000 women across 2 days, that was a lot.
Nobody was buying. They came to my table and asked what I was giving away that was free.
I sold three books.
Three. Not 300, or 30.
And then, I arranged to have them all shipped home.
Anyone want to buy a book?
Why do I tell you all this? And what does it have to do with gaining mastery in your life?
During the two-day Expo and in the weeks and months since then, I have had to learn to master my emotions. I had to learn to master my perspective.
It would have been easy to feel like a failure and look at this whole experience as a loss.
Read that last sentence again and notice my language, specifically “failure” and “loss.”
I had to CHOOSE my perspective and how I looked at this experience. I chose to see this as a great learning experience and an investment in myself.
It wasn’t a loss.
I wasn’t a failure.
I took a risk. I played big. And I learned. A LOT!
Most of all, I learned to master my emotions and choose my perspective.
Remember the next time something in your life happens that threatens to derail you, throw you off balance, or leave you feeling less than:
It’s not about failure and loss. It’s about investment and learning.
I dedicated an entire section to mastering your thoughts and emotions in my #TAPASFORLIFE #masterclass bite-size online course, Balanced Wellness During Menopause. It’s called Thoughts, Words, and Feelings and I give you tools to take every thought captive, change your language, and master your emotions. Check it out at Balanced Wellness During Menopause.
From my blog:
- From Poison Ivy to NYC Photoshoot. The highs and lows of life. Everyone has them.
- Finding Your Balance – Know the Spokes on Your Wellness Wheel
- Serenity From Knowing What We Can and Cannot Change