A while back I had a private conversation, as well as a public Facebook Live, with my friend Maia. She had read my first book, Come Back Strong, and told me how she had wanted me to be angrier.

One of the things I love about Maia is that she is very in tune with her anger, and uses it as a way to fully express her heart and soul’s cry. She also loves a good F-bomb.

I thought about this and realized that there were plenty of times on this journey, as well as in my life when I have indeed been angry. In the early stages of my first book, my friend Susan called me out on it. As she read one of the beta versions, she could feel my anger in the pages. And she let me know it didn’t work. She was also quick to remind me that as long as I was angry, I couldn’t fully heal myself, and I would fall short in my quest to help others.

My writing has always been therapeutic. Whether journalling to myself, prayers to God, or writing a book to the world, it is an invaluable tool for me to process my emotions, choose forgiveness, and inspire others to live a life of true health, love, laughter, and freedom.

This week I was reading Unleash Your Inner Money Babe: Uplevel Your Money Mindset and Manifest $1,000 In 21 Days (amazon affiliate link) by Kathrin Zenkin and I learned about a Hawaiian healing practiced called ho’oponopono. I have done similar exercises in the past where I spoke or wrote about my anger or lack of forgiveness toward someone or something. I would then follow it by speaking an affirmation out loud, something like “I forgive you. I forgive me. I release you. I send you light and love.”

The thing about forgiveness is that it is something we choose, multiple times and sometimes daily. It is something we do for self-care, self-love and ultimately for survival. It often has nothing to do with another person or situation. It is about releasing ourselves so that we can allow energy and love to flow into and through our lives. It is how we heal, how we grow and expand, and how we prosper.

This is in alignment with much of what I’ve learned and even wrote about in my book: to heal, to love, to forgive and improve and live a life of passion and purpose, we have to go within. It’s kind of counter-intuitive when so many of us look externally for solutions.

Check out the Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More (amazon affiliate link) and the four-stage process of ho’oponopono as suggested by Dr. Haleaka Hew Len. PhD in his interview with Joe Vitale (Amazon affiliate link). I encourage you to try it out with anyone or anything in your life that needs healing and forgiveness.

Think about an area in your life where you are angry, have unforgiveness, or need healing. Truly feel it. Once you identify it, say the following out loud with feeling:

  1. I love you.
    Send love to the situation. Love heals.
  2. I’m sorry.
    Acknowledge the situation and note how long you’ve held on to it.
  3. Forgive me.
    For your role, or for not forgiving sooner.
  4. Thank you.
    For all that it/they taught you.

For me, I always feel lighter, clearer and calmer after doing this. Let me know how it goes with you!

With love, gratitude, and kindness,


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